Updated: Feb 23
Luxury by definition is the state of great comfort and extravagant living. The extravagance is of low priority for me. But, the state of great comfort? Give it to me NOW!
At the beginning of this year, I felt myself going crazy. I had made so many commitments that I lost sight and control of the things that mattered. I used to be so organized with my time. I always had a good idea of what was going on and who I was doing whatever with. But a few weeks ago, I couldn't even think about answering the simple questions without becoming overwhelmed. It was in those moments that I knew I had to reclaim control of my life. It was in that moment that I committed to giving myself--and subsequently, my family and home--the life of luxury I [we] deserve.
Here are the few ways I've found that have helped me live comfortably and simply. I pray these tools will help you too!
1. Declutter and organize your space.
Declutter Your Closet
Girl, get rid of it. The mystical concept of "one day" you keep speaking of is not going to happen. Selah. We tend to have an emotional connection to the things we harbor. They remind us of a time that either causes us to remanence or mourn. Regardless of the response, if it hasn't served you in the last 90 days, let it go. 90 days either cover an entire season or the transition between the two. If you haven't touched an item in that period, that's the only sign you need.
I strongly suggest researching the minimalistic lifestyle for inspiration. I'm an avid supporter!
Oh! This goes for your cabinets, hidden rooms, and shared spaces.
Declutter Your Calendar
One of my biggest obstacles was the mismanagement of time. My home, which is super important to me, was neglected because I was spending so much time bringing other people's visions to life. I would leave my job, kiss my husband and daughter, and start working again. Hustle culture is not for me. Letting go of self-inflicted obligations gave me a peace of mind and the space to steward the things that mean the most to me.
Declutter Your Mind
Doing the listed things above can definitely assist in decluttering your mind. It does, however, take some extra muscle because intrusive thoughts are real. I heard a message where the speaker compared the mind to a tree. The branches of the tree can't always dictate which bird lands on them, but their capacity will communicate to the bird whether they should stay. This is what I've had to practice even at this very moment. Firstly, I pray daily that the Lord grants me the grace to discipline my mind. Then, whenever an unnecessary, intrusive thought comes to my brain, I literally say, "This thought doesn't serve me and I don't have the capacity for it. I'm letting it go." This process is so hard because I want to feel my feelings, but the reward of emotional peace and liberation is so worth it.
After you've departed from the things that no longer serve you, you must then commit to maintaining this level of simplicity. I know it's difficult because entitled friends and consumerism make it seem nearly impossible to say no, but you have to prioritize this newfound peace you've achieved. If it is not absolutely necessary, it cannot have space in your home, calendar, or mind. Naturally, there are exceptions to this rule, but in everything, keep your goal in mind.
2. Create a routine and stick to it.
My routines mean the world to me. Knowing what's happening and that it's happening every day and at a specific time takes the guesswork out of my tasks. One of my favorite moments in the day is closing down the kitchen at 8:30 pm. The dishes are washed, the food is stored away, and I have a candle burning to set the tone for the evening. Not only does this routine free my mind, but it insures that my family is taken care of which enhances the peace I receive.
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3. Wash your face.
Speaking of routines, my skincare routine is it for me! I wake up before the family awakes and stay up after putting my daughter down for bed. If I don't do anything else, I'm going to pamper this face of mine. Dedicating 10 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes at night makes every sacrifice I've made through the day worth it. I want to encourage every mommy who will read this blog, if you only remember one thing, remember this; take intentional care of your skin. You'll thank you!
4. Prioritize convenience in every area possible.
Convenience can be expensive. Everyone can't afford a cleaning service or a personal chef, but do what you can with what you have. Instacart has been that investment for me. I can order ahead and save myself a long drudge through the aisles of the cyclone that is the grocery store. Sign me up every time. Wherever you can prioritize convenience while being responsible with your resources, do it.
5. Find something that’s only yours.
You give so much of yourself to so many people. Personal space seems to be a thing of the past. Your battery gets drained so fast now. You need to pour back into your cup. How do you fill your cup? You've got to find something that is only yours. Getting my nails done twice a week is only mine. Waking up at 6:30 am on a Saturday gives me time that is only mine. Listening to an audiobook/podcast or my favorite music while I'm mopping the bathroom is only mine. Getting a wax is an experience that is only mine. It doesn't have to be super exclusive or expensive but find or create something in your life that will be only yours.
Mommy, I hope you find solace in this post and I sincerely hope that you commit to giving yourself a little more of the luxury you and your family deserve.